3/2/2013 9:59:00 PM Learning from those who have walked
West Yavapai Guidance Clinic
Last month, the Counselor's Column posed the question to readers: "What has worked for you?" The idea was to get real-world tips from local people who have overcome life's obstacles. And we wanted to share that wisdom with other readers. Keeping names private, of course.
The following information was sent in by a local man who responded to the Counselor's Column query. He wrote: "Recovery and stress management are crucial. Stress is a part of everybody's life, but I find that if you lower your expectations you will have less stress in your life. If a person's expectations are too high and they're violated in any way, their stress level will most likely go up. On the other hand, if I have low or no expectations going into something and things don't work out for the positive, my stress reaction to that event or person is low or even non-existent because my expectations weren't violated."
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, stress can be beneficial by helping people develop the skills they need to cope with and adapt to new and potentially threatening situations throughout life. However, the beneficial aspects of stress diminish when it is severe enough to over-whelm a person's ability to cope effectively. Getting the right care and support can put problems in perspective and help stressful feelings and symptoms subside.
The local writer continued with his insights as follows: "Sustained purpose is also important, because I believe everybody should live life passionately. They should have goals and a vision of what they want out of life. What has worked for me is the attitude, 'to give is to live.' There is no better feeling in life then to give of oneself. This helps me with any depression I may feel, as well as having a feeling of gratitude and even a sense of peace."
Thank you for sending in your personal insights. The Counselor's Column looks forward to hearing from more of you at L.Norman@wygc.org.