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Ability and Accountability
By Richard Haddad, Prescott Valley, AZ
"[Children] don't remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are."
"Please watch out for each other and love and forgive everybody. It's a good life, enjoy it."

-- Two of my favorite quotes by Jim Henson

Tuesday, April 06, 2010

Sanctity of marriage must be protected

 By Richard Haddad

Photo by Richard Haddad

We live in a world in which the ever-swelling waves of political correctness threaten to erode the very foundation of the family unit.

I believe that marriage is ordained of God between a man and a woman. I also believe that many of the troubles facing the world today stem from broken or failing families.

I recall a short story I heard when I was a young man that illustrates this point:

A small boy tugs at his father's pants as he reads the newspaper and asks, "Father will you play with me?"

The father says, "Not now, son. I'm reading."

A few minutes later the boy tugs again, "How about now father?" he asks.

Frustrated, the father looks down on the coffee table and sees a magazine. He flips the pages and finds a picture of the world. The father tears the picture out and rips it into small pieces.

"Son, here is some tape. When you put this picture back together, I'll play with you," the father responded.

Thinking his son will now be kept busy for a while, the father starts reading again. But to his surprise the boy is tugging at his pants only moments later.

"I'm done, father. Now will you play with me?"

Amazed at seeing the picture repaired so quickly, the father asks, "Son, how did you do that so fast?"

"It was easy," said the boy. "On the back of the picture was a picture of a family. I just put the family back together and the whole world fell into place."

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• See related blog by Cate Zovod
• See Related Blog: Celebrating marriage, faith and commitment

Reader Comments

Posted: Sunday, April 21, 2013
Article comment by: gail cutright

Oops! For those of you lumping the 'Jewish' Old Testament with the New Testament haven't thought about either one very carefully. Jehovah was the Old Testament guy, and was into sacrifice, testing people, supervising wars, etc. Does that sound like the God Jesus was talking about?
And don't even think about connecting Paul with Jesus. I read a sign in the Ancient Agora in Athens that said he was there everyday convincing people of his new religion. CEO Paul was responsible for devaluing women's role in the church. I once read a very convincing article (with plenty of quotes from the Bible) putting forth the theory that Paul was gay. The article was serious. I laughed at the delicious irony.
Remember, a lot of gospels were left out of the Bible you read today and even more information was probably mistranslated. For example, the Greek translation of the word 'sin' means to miss the mark, as an arrow misses the target. So when you 'sin,' it means you just don't get the bigger picture. Another example is from a French theologian who believes the word. 'blessed' was mistranslated. He translates it as, 'walk forth.' So the term, 'blessed are the meek' for they shall inherit the [E]arth' really means, 'walk forth [you] meek...' And the best one in my opinion, 'walk forth [you] poor in spirit ...' Jesus did not want us to be victims. Does it really make sense that people poor in [S]pirit would see the kingdom of heaven?
It's much better to be discerning about things you read or hear. Use your mental and emotional capacities. Do you really logically think or believe in your heart that Jesus cared about marriage beyond a cultural standpoint?

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: dog on

If our "maker" can just make more why do we need boy and girl parts?

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: Church going Kelly

Ryan, Ryan, Ryan. How young, bitter and naive you are. The reason why "Adam & Steve" are not pictured with their children is elementary. Boy parts are not meant to intermingle with other boys parts therefore not being able to create another life. That is how our maker intended it to be. You cannot change that. Amen.

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: dog on

How others choose to live their lives has ZERO effect on the relationship I have with my wife. Who I married on the rim of the Grand Canyon, with a Justice of the Peace, and no mention of any supernatural being. If your relationships with your spouses and least importantly your particular deity are so damaged that you need to look for someone other than yourself to blame then perhaps it is you that needs fixing.

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: BIG E

Let the same sex couples marry...They deserve to be miserable, too.

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: Ryan Jensen

Who's to say the picture of the family the author writes about wasn't a photo of Adam, Steve and their two children?

Gays are people too and they should be allowed to marry.

Get used to it.

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: John Galt

He's right. "many of the troubles facing the world today stem from broken or failing families."

But I also believe that families with stable same-sex partners can produce healthy, happy kids too.

Somehow the phrase "people in glass houses..." seems appropriate. Look at your own problems first before deciding someone else is the cause.

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: Miranda S

It says both lying with a man, AND eating shrimp are an abomination. So a shrimp dinner is the same thing as a big gay orgy.

Also, the new testament cancels out the old. Jesus Himself never spoke about two men being together, and it's only mortal men who were referring to the old testament to scare followers back in line who bring it up in the new testament. But Jesus said the Christian faith only boiled down to two rules. Which was along the lines of "Worship and believe in God. Love thy neighbor". And Jesus basically said if you follow those two rule and are a good person at heart, nothing else matters.

You can aslo talk about how poeple have used the bible to justify hate in the past. Each time using scriptures as "proof" that God hated a particual group of people like blacks and Jews.

Posted: Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Article comment by: Miranda S

The Bible says nothing about the illegality of gay marriage. The Bible says nothing about how human beings can decide who God loves and who God doesn't. The Bible does say that two men shouldn't lie together(which can be interpreted in many ways, not just YOUR way), yet it also says thou shalt not lie, kill, etc. THOSE are in the 10 Commandments. Not being a homosexual is NOT!

For those of you who are concerned with what God is for and against, that's crap because you have no idea. Religion is about a relationship between your god and you. It is NOT about how your God gave you "authority" to control the lives of others. These people are your brothers and sisters and they deserve to have free will, to live their lives, and to be happy.

If you want to be a scumbag and take that away, I guess you'll see what God has to say at the pearly gates of Heaven.

Posted: Saturday, May 22, 2010
Article comment by: Cherry Pickers

Jesus said "It is easier for a camel to fit through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to get into heaven" he also said that those who believe should set their riches aside and follow him. Where is the diatrabe against the rich? Most of these people are non believers thinking that if they show up to service one day a week, say a few prayers they are going to heaven for eternity. It is a joke...don't even try to live the life just hedge your bets and convince yourselves that it is enough. Good luck!

Posted: Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Article comment by: Leave it alone!

My religion teaches tolerance. Does your religion teach hatred, if you think it is wrong pray for them. Why does the newspaper reprint this article? People are not going to change their mind.

Posted: Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Article comment by: D Tripp

So let me get this straight (pardon the pun)-you want to prevent gay marriage for other people LEGALLY because of beliefs that RELIGIOUSLY drive your life. You. The people that wouldn't be caught dead around a gay person as it is. Remember-they're already NOT invited to your church without accelerant (turn or burn, baby)-they're NOT allowed to teach your children (it's contagious) and they're NOT allowed to protect you from invasion or harm (they might put makeup on the enemy and let them in). Wow. And that my friends in a nutshell is the shining example why more and more people are leaving your 'Temple of the Obsolite and Overbearing'. And why shouldn't they leave? there's no room for the regular people in those rows of self-righteous insecurity and pharisaic lists of rules and regulations. If jesus is supposed to be your example, u might want to read a little more of what HE said, and stop spouting what he didn't (two ears, one mouth). Salvation comes through the christ-that means every one else can go to hell...grin

Posted: Sunday, April 25, 2010
Article comment by: To DD

So let me get this straight, you use God as a scapegoat for discrimination....ya gotta love it!!
And that young man that was such a pleasure to be around...I wonder how he feels about being denied the same rights straight people are afforded?

Posted: Sunday, April 25, 2010
Article comment by: D D

To Shari L. There is not a person that has walked this earth, or will walk this earth, other than Jesus Christ, that is free of sin, including me. That does not change the fact that being Gay defies God's law. Read I Corinthians 6:9 in the Bible, homosexuality is mentioned specifically along with a few other immoralities to be against God's law. In fact many of the books in the Bible that Paul wrote concern themselves with how we should live our lives. I do not lay judgment on Gay people, God has already set his judgment in place on this issue just as he does with any sin. But I do need to be abreast as to what God considers sin, so I can be discerning about the right or the wrong of the Gay lifestyle, adultery, idolitory, murder, stealing, lying, coveting, harboring anger, selfish ambition, hatred, jealousy, and so forth. That is not the same as passing judgment. With that let me also go a step further and tell you I went to school with a Gay young man who was a pleasure to be around during the hours we were in school. I had no reason to be personally rude to him, but I know that his life style was against the way God wants us to live. I also had a close relative who chose that same life style and eventually commited suicide. So I have known people who are Gay/Lesbian. You love the person not the lifestyle they have chosen. God set up rules for us all to live by. But he also created us with a will for free choice. Each of us make our own decision whether we choose God's way or another way.

Posted: Friday, April 23, 2010
Article comment by: Gays Scare Me

How is it that the largest divorce rate in the country is spread throughout the Bible Belt while the lowest divorce rate in the country is in Massachusetts. Maybe the tolerance liberal individuals have for differences in culture magically works its way into their marraiges as well. Ironic that the Christians who cry the loudest when prayer is disallowed in schools or religous displays are banned from public places think nothings wrong with stepping all over someone elses right to be treated equally under the law. I would also take any odds that 99% of those opposed to same sex marraige or to gays in general have never met a gay or trans, (that they know of) person. Most likely never had a gay freind or family member and probably never even conversed with a gay or trans person...yet they can form these amazingly dark opinions.....incredible!!!

Posted: Thursday, April 22, 2010
Article comment by: Richard Haddad

Thank you Shari. And thank you to everyone contributing to this discussion. My primary message in this blog entry is the vital roll and divine nature of the family, and the powerful, positive impact a stable family can have -- not only on children but also on humanity as a whole. The foundation of a healthy, enduring family is under attack on many fronts -- infidelity, divorce rates that obscure the meaning of commitment, economic pressures that rob couples of parenting time and time to nurture love, pornography, drugs and other thieves that operate in the shadows. As the story illustrates, families are being broken up and the world feels the impact.

Posted: Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Article comment by: Shari Lopatin

OK Martin, you got me. LOL! I have to admit, I did chuckle at that oxymoron of mine, "I can't stand intolerance." As a writer, that IS really funny to me. But I think everyone who read my post gets my point.
And to Mr. Haddad (yet again), thank you for bringing this subject to the forefront, whether or not we fully agree on certain aspects of it. I think getting people involved in debate about such subjects is important. It keeps our society from growing apathetic.
And to Brian: YOU'RE WELCOME!

Posted: Monday, April 19, 2010
Article comment by: cheryl g

wow more drama over this again i seee yes the bible say man should leave his mom to be with his wife not husband but wife

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: sinners and idolaters!

@ Sarah N:
Westboro Baptist Church is in Kansas. Please move there.

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: J Ally

What exactly is it that marriage is based on? It's based on love. Call me crazy but when you fall in love with someone- it's their personality that you love. It's not their looks or their possessions. Last I checked personality doesn't come with a gender.

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: how quaint

The same group that frets the federal government is drunk with power, overreaching and getting into our personal lives by wanting to MAKE us buy health insurance are the same ones who are totally fine with things like the Patriot Act or a Constitutional amendment to define marriage as man + woman. And none of them get the hypocritical irony of it all.

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: connie salter

You do understand that, legally, marriage is a contract with the State, don't you? It has nothing to do with anyone's god. Lumping legal marriage in with religion is a hold over from more oppressive times when religion and State were bound together. One of the most important precepts of the Constitution of the United States of America, is that SEPARATION of religion and State.
If you want a "sanctified" marriage, then go to your place of worship and get your head honcho to bless you. Then you can keep the sanctity of your belief in marriage exactly how your belief system dictates. That's your business and right.
Please leave others in peace to cherish one another as they see fit and to be legally married under the law of the land, whatever that may currently be.
Hopefully, there will come a time in Arizona when people understand the distinction between legal marriage and religious marriage...and act accordingly by voting to allow same sex marriages. It's common sense and the most compassion solution.
BTW, I'm a straight female and in my 50's. I see no threat to marriage by letting all people who love each other be allowed to reap the benefits of tax breaks, insurance benefits and hospital visitation rights. On the other hand, remember people, legal marriage is a contract with the State, Perhaps mot being married is easier and more private in the long run.

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: Natalie Kravetz

Mr Haddad,
Do you know what Jesus said about homosexuality? That's right, nothing! Nothing at all. I invite you to watch the movie 'For The Bible Tells Me So' featuring the Right Reverend Gene Robinson, Espiscopal Bishop. It might clear up some of the myths upon which you are basing your argument. However Jesus did say 'Love thy neighbor'.

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: Sarah N.

The Bible is God's Word. Like it or not, one day every knee shall bow and every tongue shall confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.
The sin of homosexuality is the same sin of fornication, the Bible is very clear. None should cast a stone, as we are ALL are guilty one way or another.
Faith in the one true God, He created all things, the heavens and the earth, He sent His Son, Jesus who died on the cross for the sins of ALL man, and rose again. Death no longer has dominion over him, same for us if we believe, have faith, repent.
Repentance is admitting you are a sinner, agree with God that He is right, we are wrong, ask forgiveness and turn from sin.
If a person truly does this, 1 John 1:9 says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Ephesians 2:8, For by grace you have been saves through faith. And this is not of your own doing, it is the gift of God.
Faith and repentence go together.
Pride is the downfall of all man. We must see ourselves for who we really are.
Thank you for article Mr. Haddad.

Posted: Sunday, April 18, 2010
Article comment by: Joshua Carpenter

ok Brainwashed since you singled me out I will respond to your post:

You point out that we are instructed to put on the whole armor of God. Do you have a set of physical armor in your closet that you don to go fight the forces of evil? Of course not. And yet within a few sentences of quoting scripture,you abandon spiritual things and your back hammering on 'voting for what is right'

Tell me, what was Jesus' voting record like? Did he ever advocate a POLITICAL solution to anything?

Would it be the "right thing" to vote for a ban on divorces and second marriages, with the only exception being if the prior marriage ended because of infidelity? That is what scripture teaches. (Matthew 5:32)

Bottom line is MOST Americans are not Biblical Christians. Read the study on the link below. Most American Christians do not even believe in Satan or the Holy Spirit. That's not Americans in general, that is specifically American Christians. If you are too disrated by the things of this world then you fail to recognize that there is only ONE solution to the world's problems and it has NOTHING to do with a ballot box. You cannot legislate morality and no one ever came to a true faith in Christ by a government edict.

www.barna.org article

When you consider these things the next logical question would be, what should my priorities as a Christian be? Voting, demonstrating, listening to radio programs about politics, watching tv programs about washington gossip... or... maybe... its supposed to be Love. And not the physical kind either...

The Most Important Commandment (Matthew 22.34-40 Luke 10.25-28) One of the teachers of the Law of Moses came up while Jesus and the Sadducees were arguing. When he heard Jesus give a good answer, he asked him, "What is the most important commandment?" Jesus answered, "The most important one says: `People of Israel, you have only one Lord and God. You must love him with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.' The second most important commandment says: `Love others as much as you love yourself.' No other commandment is more important than these."
    The man replied, "Teacher, you are certainly right to say there is only one God. It is also true that we must love God with all our heart, mind, and strength, and that we must love others as much as we love ourselves. These commandments are more important than all the sacrifices and offerings that we could possibly make."
    When Jesus saw that the man had given a sensible answer, he told him, "You are not far from God's kingdom." After this, no one dared ask Jesus any more questions.

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